Yun and I were talking recently on the phone about her relationship with her oldest daughter Mia (who is 5) and how she hopes that when Mia is Yun’s age, she’ll still want Yun around as much as Yun still craves the presence of our mother. The good sister that I am, I was reassuring: ‘don’t see why not, we’ve always had a good relationship with our mum’ etc., to which my sister replied “but I’m not our mother!” Which is about as truthful a statement as you’ll ever get about our family. We will never be our mother.
Our mum is the archetypal nurturing mother, yet she also manages not to smother. She is, almost perfect. And she is so bloody cute it is sickening. Everyone who has met my mum tells me she is cute. Everyone. The people at my gym who met her ONCE, told me they had an entire conversation about how cute my mum is. The woman is crazy, but damn it, she IS cute which is why she can get away with shit like this:
Tuesday: I call my mum to suggest awesome things we can do together for mother’s day. I get rejected by my dad who lies and tells me mum is unavailable to talk, but that they already have plans for Sunday.
Wednesday: The lie comes out. I suggest new plans for Sunday that would significantly lighten my wallet. My mum says ok.
Thursday: My mum calls me and tells me to forget my plans, and that I should use the money I was planning for Sunday to buy her a nice gift!
Today (Friday): My mum tells me I should forget both plans + gifts and just give her cash. She’ll treat herself. Which is basically what I tell my mum every year for my birthday. She thinks she is being really funny. She is also serious. We talk for five minutes about how much money would be appropriate for me to give her, given my previous plans.
She can do these things though because my mother is fucking awesome. She’s so awesome I’m always getting caught giving her kisses- it’s actually starting to get a little embarrasing. I’m 25 and whenever I’m with her she makes me feel little, in that really nice “I’m being tucked in” way. No one makes me feel more loved than my mother, and for that she deserves every cent I’ll ever earn in my entire lifetime and then some.
May 11, 2009 at 3:45 am
I will say it again: your mum IS super cute.
I couldn’t call my mum because the payphones in dutchland only take this particular type of card that I don’t have, boo. So I messaged her with an imaginary bunch of tulips, which made her pleased, especially because her two other spawn had completely forgotten (I am appalled and am going to give them both chinese burns in true older sister fashion when I return).
May 20, 2009 at 2:45 pm
Haha, I didn’t even notice that you left a reply! You are such a sweetheart, if I was on other side of the world I would never send my mum tulips, imaginary or otherwise.